Two methods I have found useful. If it seems an intractable problem, you've made two goals equal. Figure out the conflicting goals and decide which will give way, such as once I think about it I realize the unspoken goal is I don't want to challenge Mom, M-I-L, Boss, etc.
Second method is 6 steps:
Intel, intel, intel, always be gathering intel.
Clear mind, set aside emotions.
Clear vision of what I want, the more clear and detailed, the more likely I'll get the result I want.
Detailed plan to get from current reality to vision.
Execute plan.
Debrief: what worked, what mistakes, etc.
There's way number 1.5: Solve a different but related problem, which gives you like 80% of the benefits of solving the original problem, but at 20% of the cost. This allows you to experience much less pain without an investment of resources you can't afford.
I do this with emails I'm not even angry about. Wait for your audience to come to you wherever possible. It's a lot cheaper to leverage the momentum of other people than to get them started from zero every time. I find the desire to author angry emails is often a side effect of trying to go too fast.
https://blog.onepatchdown.net/philosophy/2023/10/03/four-pil...
Second method is 6 steps: Intel, intel, intel, always be gathering intel. Clear mind, set aside emotions. Clear vision of what I want, the more clear and detailed, the more likely I'll get the result I want. Detailed plan to get from current reality to vision. Execute plan. Debrief: what worked, what mistakes, etc.
Aka "quickfix" or "hack".